Finding Meaning Through Symbols: Navigating Grief During the Holidays
The holidays are often a time of joy and togetherness, but for those grieving the loss of a loved one, they can also be filled with a deep sense of longing. The season’s traditions and decorations can stir up memories, but they also offer symbols of hope and connection that can bring comfort and meaning.
Here, we explore the symbolism behind some beloved holiday icons—cardinals, poinsettias, candles, and more—and how they can serve as gentle reminders of love and remembrance during the season of grief.
Cardinals: Messengers of Love
A cardinal’s vibrant red feathers often stand out against a snowy backdrop, symbolizing endurance and life during the coldest days. Many believe that spotting a cardinal is a sign of a loved one visiting from beyond—a reminder that their presence is still near, even if unseen.
How to Honor Them: Place a cardinal ornament on your tree or write a note to your loved one and tuck it near a cardinal decoration. It’s a quiet way to acknowledge their presence during the season.
Poinsettias: Beauty in Adversity
Poinsettias, with their striking red and green leaves, symbolize celebration and renewal. Historically, they’ve been seen as a reminder that beauty can arise even in challenging times. For those grieving, poinsettias can serve as a beacon of hope, showing that the spirit of your loved one continues to bloom in your heart.
How to Honor Them: Consider placing a poinsettia at your loved one’s gravesite or in a special corner of your home dedicated to their memory.
Candles: A Light in the Darkness
The soft glow of a candle symbolizes guidance, warmth, and remembrance. Lighting a candle during the holidays can feel like inviting your loved one to join you in spirit.
How to Honor Them: Host a small candle-lighting ceremony at home. As you light the flame, share a favorite memory or simply take a moment to reflect on their love.
Evergreens: Resilience and Strength
Evergreens, often used in wreaths and trees, are a symbol of everlasting life and resilience. Their ability to remain vibrant even in winter reminds us of the enduring bond we share with those we’ve lost.
How to Honor Them: Decorate a wreath with items that remind you of your loved one—ribbons in their favorite color, small trinkets, or handwritten messages.
Snowflakes: Unique and Ephemeral
Each snowflake is unique, just as every person is. They remind us of the fleeting, irreplaceable beauty of life.
How to Honor Them: Create or buy snowflake ornaments and use them to represent your loved one’s unique spirit. Hang them somewhere special, like near a window where they can catch the light.
Creating New Traditions
Grief during the holidays is complex, but incorporating meaningful symbols into your celebrations can provide a sense of connection and peace. Whether it’s through a cardinal’s song, the soft glow of a candle, or the beauty of a poinsettia, these symbols can help bridge the gap between loss and love.
Remember, it’s okay to create new traditions that honor your loved one while giving yourself space to heal. Grief doesn’t have to overshadow the holidays; it can become a part of the love you carry forward.
How do you honor your loved ones during the holidays? Share your traditions and stories in the comments on our Facebook—we’d love to hear how you keep their memory alive.
